OK, here's the truth: Not all men are born with good looks and charm. In fact, lots of guys are born with neither. But does that mean you're fated to spend your life alone in your apartment, with only Netflix and your dog to keep you company? Absolutely not. The truth is that while looks do matter to men and women alike, it's far from the most important thing when it comes to finding a partner. The science of sexual attraction is a complex one that involves multiple different factors, from the way you smell to the shape of your jaw to even the color of the shirt you're wearing. Though you may not exactly bear a resemblance to Ryan Gosling or possess the silver tongue of, uh, Ryan Gosling, there are still plenty of ways to make yourself more attractive. Here are 17 strategies to attracting the partner of your dreams, whether in the club, in the park, or on an online dating app. 1. Travel with an entourage MORSA IMAGESGETTY IMAGES If you're headed out on the town, grab a few buddies to be your wingmen. According to a study from the University of California at San Diego, people were rated as better-looking when they were in group photos than in solo shots. Credit it to something called the “cheerleader effect,” the researchers say. People appear more attractive in groups because viewing faces together makes them look more like the group average—which can help “even out” any one person’s unattractive idiosyncrasies. (This does not, however, apply to dating apps, where you should neveruse a group photo.) 2. Befriend a baby Though traveling with an entourage is never a bad move, your best wingman may actually be a baby. According to research from France, men who played nice with babies were more than three times as likely to score a woman’s phone number than guys who ignored the newborns. In fact, 40% of ladies gave up their digits after they saw men smiling, cooing, and talking with the tykes. So if you have a niece or nephew you're crazy about, volunteer to babysit every once in a while. Their parents will likely appreciate the help, so it's a win-win for everyone. 3. Walk your dog Man’s Best Friend, indeed: According to the same French study, women were three times as likely to give out their phone numbers to a guy on the street if he approached them with a dog than if he inquired alone. Canines can help grease social interaction, the researchers say, adding that dogs boost perceptions of kindness, thoughtfulness, and sensitivity. 4. Give your razor a break Women found guys with heavy stubble—about 10 days’ worth—to be more handsome than those with a lighter shadow, a full beard, or a completely clean-shaven face, Australian research found. This also applies to gay men, who find bearded men more attractive than clean-shaven guys, according to a Brazilian study. 5. Lend a helping hand OK, so you should do volunteer work because you're a good person and you want to help others in need, but there is also an additional benefit: volunteering makes you more attractive to women. A study from Cornell University found that women reported greater desire to date—and engage in long-term relationships with—men whose dating profiles showed selfless traits, like spending time at a local food bank. Altruism signals a concern for others, which shows you have a solid investment in the relationship. 6. Master your gait Nothing is more important than confidence when attempting to attract a partner, and one of the easiest ways to gauge a man's confidence to observe how they walk down the street. (See: this incredibly meme-able photo of Ariana Grande looking at Pete Davidsonlike he's sex on a stick.) Prospective partners "look first at your attire and second at how you walk," says R. Don Steele, author of Body Language Secrets: A Guide During Courtship & Dating. "Confident people are not in a hurry, but there's a difference between meandering and walking slowly with purpose. Always walk as if you know what you're doing and where you're going." 7. Craft your online dating bio wisely People who used positive words like “creative,” “ambitious,” or “laugh” in their online dating profiles received 33% more messages, according to a survey from dating site Zoosk. Mentioning hobby-related words like “book” or “read”—or including info about running, jogging, or lifting weights—provided a significant message boost, too. Just be careful you’re not coming on too strong. Men whose first message contained words like “dinner” or “drinks” saw their response rate plummet by 35 percent. At the very least, just make sure you have something in your online dating profile. Ideally, that something should be unique to you. "I think that people should be specific," says Dr. Jess Carbino, in-house sociologist at Bumble. "People are really concerned about not deviating from what is considered normal, [but] I think that people are actually doing a huge disservice to themselves because they aren’t standing out from the other hundred people in their geographic radius who match their age and gender criteria." 8. Steer clear of selfies Guys who posted selfies on their online dating profiles received fewer messages, a Zoosk.com survey. Carbino says that women find shirtless selfies "very unattractive. Everybody wants to know somebody’s fit and has a nice physique, but you can tell that through seeing somebody in clothing." Instead, have a friend snap a photo of you, and head outside while you’re at it. Men with an outdoors shot collected 19 percent more messages, according to Zoosk. That said, the "no shirtless selfies!" rule does not appear to hold on gay dating apps: an analysis of Grindr, for instance, found that most of the users showcase their bodies and physical fitness on the app, which didn't particularly affect their chances at finding a hookup. 9. Smile (but, like, slowly) Men who let their smiles spread slowly across their faces were judged as more attractive than those who put on a quick grin, research in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior found. The slow-smiling guys were also rated as more trustworthy, showing that their expressions might be perceived as more genuine. Flashing a grin is also important when putting together an online dating profile. "I know 14% of individuals are more likely to be swiped right on if they are smiling because everybody knows that smiling confers kindness and approachability," says Carbino. "You don't want to look like you’re grimacing, despite what Calvin Klein may be presenting in ads." 10. Stay strong, but not too strong A study from UCLA found that women rated “built” men as more sexually desirable than thin, non-muscled “slender” guys and heavier, more-muscled “brawny” dudes. The researchers say it's sort of like the Goldilocks effect: Women like some muscles, but not too many. This is not, however, the case on gay dating apps, where men rated a muscular body as the most attractive quality in men. 11. Flaunt your battle scars GAWRAVGETTY IMAGES Women rated men with mild scarring on their faces as more attractive for short-term flings than unblemished guys, a U.K. study discovered. Females might see scars as a sign of heightened masculinity, the researchers believe. That’s especially true if the marks were a result of some kind of trauma, since that can advertise good genes or a strong immune system. 12. Carry a guitar According to a study published in the journal Psychology of Music, women were more than three times as likely to give a guy her phone number when he asked for it while holding a guitar case than when he carried a sports bag. Axe-men are generally considered “cool” and “fun,” the researchers say. Plus, musical ability might also signal higher intelligence and good genes—two qualities important to women when choosing a partner. 13. Ditch the corny pickup line According to a study from SUNY-New Paltz, people are more likely to favor a man for a long-term relationship if he uses direct opening lines (“I saw you across the room and had to meet you. What’s your name?”) or safe ones (“Do you have the time?”) rather than cocky come-ons (“Shall we talk or continue flirting from a distance?”). Flippant phrases also make men seem less intelligent and less trustworthy, the study found. 14. Manspreading can be a good thing FEEDOUGHGETTY IMAGES Women rated men who sat with an open body posture—legs spread, arms stretched out—and used hand gestures as hotter than guys who sat with their legs together and arms folded, researchers from the U.K. discovered. Open body language is considered to be a signal of dominance, the researchers say. Just make sure you're staying compact if you're on a crowded subway train. 15. Buy a bouquet Simply being in a room with a few vases of flowers can influence the way a woman sees you, research in the journal Social Influence suggests. When flowers were nearby, ladies judged men as sexier and more attractive than they did when the room was empty. Flowers can signal romance and enhance her mood, the researchers say, which may help her view you more favorably.
Ever heard the saying “putting lipstick on a pig?” Right. You can be dressed to the nines in the best of the best, but that can easily be all for naught if you’re simply papering over the underlying cracks. Meanwhile, this isn’t about trying to look like a movie star either. Being born with great hair, a symmetrical face, and razor sharp cheekbones is like winning the lottery. Good for you, but it’s nothing to be proud of. You didn’t earn it. It was a gift from the gods & odds. We’re all dealt a genetic hand. It’s how well you play those cards that matters. Here’s 10 easy-ish things that you can do to maximize your potential, outside of buying another pair of shoes or a new suit. (Top Photo Credit.) Better Sleep Taking care of the one body you’ve got is more than a two pronged approach. Recovery, especially sleep, has been all but ignored by most of the physical wellness community for far too long. Start keeping a sleep journal or using a sleep app to figure out what works, and what doesn’t, when it comes to getting the rest you need. Chances are, you ain’t getting it. Whether it’s too much screen time late into the night, eating patterns, or caffeine/alcohol intake, analyze and solve the problems. And stop making excuses for not prioritizing sleep. If you’re not getting enough solid quality sleep, you’re gonna be crap at just about anything else you’re trying to accomplish. Whether it be professionally or personally, if you’re dragging ass, you’re never gonna be your at your best. And you’ll look like hell. Gentler Grooming Unless you’ve got a special case when it comes to skin or hair, consider the less-is-more approach. Less scalding hot showers. Less shampoo (try every other day, or, every two-three days). Less hair product. Less skin stripping soaps. No one is advocating for you to go full forest-hippie-gnome and to drown your body odor in patchouli, but, question what you were taught and your current habits. And try to use a little less of what the big chemical companies are selling us. Better/Cleaner Food Shop the outside aisles of the grocery stores. That’s where the fresh stuff is, since that stuff has to be restocked more often, and thus, is closer to the docks/delivery points. Consider a food (and digestion) diary, and look at how much processed stuff you’re taking in. This, like better sleep, might take re-prioritizing. Think less TV/Video games, and more time listening to podcasts while cooking and prepping food. I’ve got a pal who, in preparation for Elk hunting season, cut soda & late night candy binges out of his diet. He dropped 30 pounds. A few small changes really can make a monster difference. Exercise Obligatory. Not only will it help you sleep better at night (DOMS is one way to look forward to hitting the sack), but chances are you’ll start looking better in those slim & tailored clothes you own. Gooey fat will be replaced by calorie burning muscle. And no, you don’t have to suffer in some sterile gym. Get out and enjoy where you live. Whether that’s going for a run, or hitting the mountain bike trails, or training for obstacle races, or hiking with your dog(s). Just consult your doc (speaking of, when was the last time you had a checkup there Highlander?) before you set out on a new program. Meditation (yes really) Hard to look good if you’re pissed off and stressed all the time, no? One of the reasons I wear a wrist watch is that I hate how distracting mobile phones can be. The Headspace app just might be the first thing to hit a mobile phone that actually makes your life LESS stressful, and more calm. It’s brilliantly executed, with a simple, straightforward approach, and a non hokey-dokey demeanor. More on the theory (and the man) behind headspace, can be found over here with is TED talk. Flossing Brushing your teeth only does so much. If you’re an irregular (or, never) flosser, give it a shot. Use some gentle floss to start, since your gums are gonna be weak/sensitive. But man, you’ll be surprised how much crap you’re carrying around inbetween your teeth when you don’t floss. And all of those bits of stowaway food are contributing to the demise of your teeth and breath. Better Posture A lot of us (myself included) have less than perfect posture. And it’s undoing a lot of the hard work we put in when it comes to the kitchen and the gym. Sportcoats, blazers, and suitjackets might make you look stronger and more athletic, but slouching unravels all of those visual cues. Head here for an ultimate guide to posturefrom the good folks at Art of Manliness. (Photo Credit) Less/No Alcohol There’s no such thing as an attractive drunk. The sweating, the uncoordinated eyeballs, the loose lips and mush-brained diatribes. Even if you’re a light to moderate drinker, less alcohol in your system can do wonders. Consider volunteering to be the designated driver more often. Keep your place relatively (or completely) booze free so you’re not so easily tempted. Take a month off. You might be pleasantly surprised to find out what happens when you cut out (or cut back on) all those empty calories. Fixing your nails Whether it’s biting them, toenail fungus, or the inability to keep them at a reasonable length, bad nails (even if they’re hidden most of the time) can be… a hindrance. No, you don’t have to go get monthly mani/pedis. Just take care of them and stop ignoring a problem if you’ve got one. More Water Y’know what’s worth a few more trips to the bathroom each day? Better skin, eyes, and hair. Less headaches too. You might even drop a bit of fat since you’ll be fuller more often. Buy some 32 oz. Nalgene bottles. Fill one up to start the day, and get through it. Editor’s Note: Does this post feel like something a nagging parent or older brother would say? (Flossing?? Really?) Sure. I understand that. I don’t do all these things myself (got plenty of work-ons, personally) but I can absolutely vouch for most of them. And again, clothes, shoes, and wrist watches can only do so much. Now, get off my damn lawn. Source: dappered.com
How to Style Men’s Hair – Tip #1 The first tip is to choose a hairstyle that’s realistic for your lifestyle, hair type, and general image. If you tend to wear conservative clothing and work for a hedge fund, chances are that you don’t want a super edgy style. If you’re clueless about how to style men’s hair, you also won’t want something that requires a lot of daily fuss. So to choose a style that will really work for you, you’ll need to think about your workplace requirements as well as the time you usually have on hand to style. Do you want a cut that’s going to require a weekly touch-up at the barbershop or one that can grow out a bit longer? Don’t be afraid to talk this over with your barber to get the right cut to fit your personal style and needs. How to Style Men’s Hair – Tip #2 The second tip also involves communicating with your barber or stylist. Once you’ve decided on a haircut, you’ll want to ask how to style and maintain it. Your stylist should be happy to give you a run-down of the type of products and techniques that he is using in your hair, so that you can recreate this look at home. How to Style Men’s Hair – Tip #3 Learn how to properly wield a comb. Finer-toothed combs will give you a sleeker look, which is helpful if you want a bit of extra structure. However, if you prefer a tousled style, you can just finger-comb your hair. Try combing your hair in a number of different directions to see what looks most natural for you.Additional Tips: Don’t underestimate the power of a part. The location where you choose to part your hair can have a major impact on the style’s impact. Side parts are more flattering on round faces, while middle parts are best for those with sharper angles. Whenever you’re in doubt, it’s a good idea to part your hair just a few inches to either side. Don’t overdo the hair products. Sometimes you don’t need anything more than a comb and some water. If you decide to lay on the products, use just a small dab of mousse or gel for hold. Serums can tame frizz, while pomade can mould your hair into shape. Stay on top of regular cuts. When your hair starts to grow out of the original cut, it can be more difficult to style. Visit your stylist or barber regularly for a quick trim that will keep it in shape. Choose an appropriate style for your hair type. If you have really fine hair, a longer style could look limp and make your hair look thin. Thick, curly hair can be hard to tame into a slicked-back style. Just choose something that works with your hair type so you don’t have to fight it. By following these basic tips, you can make hair styling a snap!